fjdkfd Deirdre YES I THINK WE ARE PRETTY SIMILAR IN A LOT OF WAYS and don't worry nothing you've ever done or said's made me feel all "oh god what do you want from me." You're really good about that. OH NO IS THAT A COMPLIMENT YOU DON'T HAVE TO LIVE UP TO THAT I just get the feeling you think about that kind of thing a lot and I appreciate the thought you seem to put into how you treat people.

Actually nobody likely to read this makes me feel all anxious and stuff about these things, which I guess half-defeats the purpose of making it public but at least makes me feel a little better about potential passive aggression.